Big Feelings

When feelings are too big for words, start with safety and calm, then come back to practise later.

If it’s happening right now

Check everyone is safe first. Move anything that could hurt, and stay between your child and any danger.
Lower the noise, light and demands. Turn off screens or music, and drop questions and instructions for now.
Use very few words, in a quiet, even voice. “I’m here. You’re safe.” is plenty.
Stay close, or stay within sight if they want space, and wait. It often takes longer than you expect to settle.
Save talking and activities for later, once everyone is calm. If anyone is unsafe or at risk of harm, call 000 in an emergency (Australia). For ongoing worries, contact your GP or child health nurse.

These are everyday suggestions, not medical advice. Everything below can wait until your child is ready.

What’s happening? (for example “dentist”, “queue”, “bedtime”)

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