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Not getting what I expected

My favourite shirt is being washed

What happened

A shirt hanging wet on a clothes line

You wanted your dinosaur shirt today. It's in the washing machine.

What do you want to happen?

For the grown-up

Clothes are on her all day, so a swapped shirt is not the same as a swapped plate — the wrong fabric can bother her from breakfast to bedtime. Let her pick the replacement herself, and put the wet one where she can see it.

  • Say what they wanted before you say what can happen. A child who is handed a solution first hears it as being told off.
  • The true thing beats the soothing thing. “The cup is in the wash” is something a child can be disappointed about and then get past.
  • Wanting the impossible thing is not a mistake. It is what they want, and this resource agrees with them before it says anything else.
  • It works far better on a calm day than in the middle of one. Going through it when nothing is happening is what makes the words available the next time something is.

This is a rehearsal tool, not an assessment, and it does not know your child. You decide whether what it says fits them — if a scenario is not right, close it and pick another.

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